Today, she sent me a message about The Frog Syndrome, and it kind of made me take a moment to ponder over it.
When a frog is put in a vessel filled with boiling water, it will immediately jump out.However, when you put it in a vessel with cold water and then start heating the water up, the frog would just stay in and change its body temperature accordingly and simply put, it will learn to adapt.
The frog will continue accustoming itself to the increasing temperature..
Just when the water is about to reach the boiling point, the frog will no longer be able to adapt to the temperature. The frog will then try to jump but it will be to no avail. The frog has lost all its strength whilst trying to adapt, and very soon the frog dies.
Many of us will say that it is the boiling water. But according to my mummy's message, it is the inability of the frog to decide when to jump out that killed the frog.
So, let's analyse this a little bit.
The message is that at times, we will need to be like the frog being put in the cold water which is being heated up, because let's face it, life isn't always a pot of boiling water. We will need to adapt to different people and different situations. You're going to be put in a situation out of your comfort zone. You can't be whining or complaining, so you gotta deal with it. And dealing with it means you're going to have to be somewhat like the frog that was initially in the cold water.
And at other times, you'll be put in a situation that goes far beyond the boundaries of your moral stand and beliefs. A very simple scenario would be when you, for example are person who does not curse. But your friends on the other hand, curse like drunken sailors( this is just a scenario, not directed towards anyone!). What then would you do if your friends tell that you're too uptight or you're just pretending to be a 'good' person? Do you still adapt? I mean, peer pressure can be very hard to handle and trust me, both myself and my character in the parallel universe face the same problem; we have a super hard time saying "no!" After all, cursing once wouldn't do any harm right?
So, this is where the " deciding when to jump out" bit hits the grey area. When is it okay to jump out? When is it the right time to jump out?
It is absolutely repulsive to let yourself be exploited, be it physically, mentally, emotionally or by any means that puts you in an uncomfortable position. I am not saying that you should only be thinking about yourself because that would just mean that you're selfish. It is of utmost importance than you learn to adapt, but never until the point where your self-worth is at stake. You deserve to live life by your principles, just the way others do too.
I guess what I'm trying to say is: learn to decide when you want to jump out. Know yourself and figure out your limits because nobody else knows you better than you do. Jump while you still have the strength.
Trying to decide when to jump out,
Hermione Jean Weasley